Is It Good To Be Friends With Your Ex?

It has often been said that it is best not to be friends with your ex, because there is a risk that you may fall for each other again. We can fall into the same dynamic that we did not like even if the relationship has changed.

Some experts argue that it is better to cut ties completely and to build a new life where there is no room for exet. On the other hand, there are those who think differently and defend the idea that a person with whom you have had a good relationship can continue to bring something positive to your life in a different way.

Reasons why you should not be friends with your ex

If you have had a toxic relationship, it is not good that you are friends with your ex. This is a person who does not bring anything positive to your life and who instead drowns you in a sea of ​​problems. This is especially true for those situations where there has been abuse in the relationship.

On the other hand, we all know that just because a relationship has ended does not necessarily mean that love, from a romantic perspective, has disappeared from people’s hearts. If the feelings are shared, they are with both of these people, and for the most part, they become together again. Unless there are circumstances such as those mentioned above.

If the feelings are not shared, the breakup tends to be complicated. The person in love tends to quarrel about closeness and distance. The person’s feelings make him keep the ex close, but the feeling of being dumped pushes the person away. For this reason, this way of ending things will ruin the relationship completely.

One of the best arguments for cutting ties with an old partner is that you want to avoid problems with the new one. If there is anyone who can cause jealousy, it is the other person’s old flame. The ex-boyfriend or girlfriend is seen by the current partner as a rival, one of the weakest points that can make the current love end.

So it is not uncommon for a new partner to insist that we end a relationship with an old flame. He usually does this in an indirect way: by creating so many conflicts that the partner chooses to cut the ties for good with exet. But it does not have to be this way in every case: mature people can handle the situation and adapt so that there are no conflicts.

Is there a positive side?

There may be. Love that is over does not mean that a relationship is over. In fact, people who once loved each other tend to always care about each other, even if the way they do this changes. In other words, the people who are important to you do not cease to be important, whether a contact is maintained or not.

Our exes know us, know what hurts us and know what hopes we have. Love may have run out, but they can still read our faces and maintain a level of understanding for us. Something that is very difficult to achieve. There are amazing relationships that have taken years to achieve.

Why can it not continue to make us happy? Why can it not bring positive things to our lives? At the moment, I can not think of any universal reason that is sufficient to answer these questions.

Continuing to have contact with an old partner is ultimately a personal choice that has risks and that can lead to conflicts, but which can also be a great source of benefits and happiness, even if it is not as it was before. You are the one who needs to be intelligent and think about some of the circumstances we have mentioned and others that you can think of to make the best decision.

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