Let Us Not Be Made For Each Other

“I’m sorry, but you’re not my happiness. No, you are not, and because of that I free myself. I refuse to put my emotional life in your hands. If you were my happiness, your absence would be the last straw and I would constantly live in full swing. I do not want to try to “own” you; that’s not really my style.

My well-being and depends almost entirely on myself. Other factors also contribute, but the internal process I go through does not come from outside.

It’s so overwhelming to shoulder someone else’s problem. I prefer to breathe for myself, walk without crutches and be myself. I do not want to belong to you, and I do not want you to belong to me. We can go out if we both want, but let’s not be “made for each other”, please.

Psychological well-being or trying to be happy requires a personal and non-transferable compromise. It is not something that is given to us, that we buy or have the right to own: it is not transferable. And since I’m not for sale, and hopefully not you either, we have an opportunity to be free.

You do not define my existence and I do not define yours, because if that were the case, we would not be able to live without each other. You are not my happiness, and fortunately I am not your partner or wife. The best relationship we can have is one where we do not belong to each other. When you do not own your partner, you respect him or her. And that is beauty, tenderness and seclusion. ”

– Text by Walter Riso

The best relationship we can have is one where we do not belong to each other. I want to meet you halfway, on an emotional level. I do not want us to be made for each other, or to be each other’s love of life. I do not want you, I want you.

I do not want to love you blindly; I do not want to close my eyes. I want to open them and see two people, both unique and independent, who give their passion, live in the present and collaborate in each other’s lives.

To be whole

I do not want us to transform or need each other. I want to leave better halves aside. You can be whatever you want, and I will not be the one to ask you to change. The important thing is that we roll together.

We do not always have to roll hand in hand either. Sometimes love is not enough, and I do not want to be left behind. We all need time for ourselves sometimes.

Because there are two of us; not one. We are not meant for each other either. I am mine and you are yours.

We all have a lifelong love

We have a lifelong love: ourselves. Only by loving ourselves unconditionally, without insecurities or setbacks, will we be able to love each other.

If a life with you means I give up on myself, it will not work. People complain that they are not loved, but the problem is that we do not know how to love ourselves.

We live in a dream of meeting our own needs and do not realize that true love is the one we feel for ourselves. So I do not want to idealize us; our love will not save us nor solve our problems or offer emotional stability.

No one can love you, no one can grow for you, smile for you or breathe for you. You are the only one who has the power to save yourself and create a healthy love, and that is the best thing in the whole world.