Your Strength Lies In Your Vulnerability

I’m vulnerable, I admit. But who is not? There are certain things in life that hurt us all. There are aspects of our daily lives that affect us and that sometimes make us more vulnerable. No one is born with an impenetrable shield; the kind that holds back tears when life delivers a hard blow.

We do not have a shield that protects us from loneliness when we see the emptiness of a house that now stands silent after smiles once danced there. Our fears are ours and it does no good to cover them like glass balls in a child’s pocket.

We all remember that mistake that may have changed our lives. The road we could not cross because they deceived us or because we were not brave enough. There are people who still hide the scars from a difficult childhood. Or the betrayal of a family that was not there when they needed it most. Who has not been vulnerable at certain moments?

We all have that. But as they say: in vulnerability there is also our strength. The kind that can give us relief and the will to rise again. To pick up our ashes and write the book about our lives with it, filled with new life lessons. The ones we first figured out through our tears.

My vulnerability, my strength

We live in a society that teaches us that the strongest are the most capable. Resonance is valued higher than emotions. Those who can hide their feelings in order to achieve their goals are seen as role models. We even educate our children with the idea that it is always better for them to hide their tears, to keep quiet and persevere instead of expressing what is happening inside them.

There are many children who are looking for private nooks and crannies where they hide while growing up. People who will reach adulthood and hide many of their emotions, try to show a false strength, false determination. They see, accept and keep quiet at the same time and act as if nothing hurts them; as if they are invulnerable.

But none of this is real. Hiding our emotions will give us many problems in the long run. We become unable to process everything in our complex, inner world: fear, anger, rage, insecurity… How can we do that if we have always been told that we must act as if nothing is affecting us?

There are many consequences of not knowing how to “accept” our vulnerability. The moment an element of fear, horror or uncertainty emerges, we will have only two options: stand there paralyzed and unable to react, or flee the situation. Not accepting that we are fragile on the inside causes us to build a false shield for ourselves, which sooner or later will be knocked down. It is necessary to accept our weaknesses. I know there are things that hurt me, and I accept, understand and then try to overcome them.

Vulnerability and resilience

All, absolutely all, we have the amazing capacity to overcome adversity. Difficulties. Darkness and fear. Resistance is a seed we all have within us in the depths of our being; we just need to know how to make it grow when we need it.

Just remember:

1. You do not have to pretend to be strong. You can not carry as many burdens as you think. You are not a steel woman or a superman. We all have our limitations, and if you are not aware of this, there will come a day when you fall to the ground. Protect yourself, set boundaries and be aware of how far you can go. Feel your vulnerability and protect it.

2. It is possible that you are already very aware of your vulnerability. But be careful: being vulnerable is not a permanent stage. It is knowing how we recognize that we can be hurt, that there are things that cause us pain. We must first realize this so that we can later strategically ensure that we will always continue to move forward. That we will always maintain our wholeness.

3. Sometimes life sharpens its cruelest side and makes us walk the most difficult path. As you know, life tends to often have serious side effects. But if you develop your resilience, you will be able to protect your integrity and eventually become stronger. It is not a simple sentence taken from a self-help book; it is an absolute reality. A streak of hope that you will always be able to find within yourself and hold on with all your strength to escape the situation. You are braver than you think, because even though it may come as a surprise , your vulnerability is also your strength.