No One Heals Himself By Harming Others

No injured person heals himself by projecting his pain on others, much less by projecting it on people he loves. But it is possible that we have found ourselves in this situation even if we did not want it or even noted it from the beginning.

It is very sad to feel bad about oneself, but it is even more sad to be aware that we, as if it were a defense mechanism, are protecting ourselves by using a perverted instrument: to plan to harm others. By projecting the frustration and pain we carry within us onto others.

Think about it; Do you not feel bad because you have pushed someone out of your life as a result of an emotional blockage from which you saw no way out? And is it not true that someone has hurt you so much that you needed to put up walls against everyone who deserved a chance?

Our heart is one of our most valuable organs, and we see it as a representation of our emotional center, the emotional companion we must take care of. It is therefore not healthy to block your heart, because if you do, you will let in the cold and only be able to offer cold. If we suffer, we must heal. If we do not allow this to happen, we will harm other people around us.

The healing process happens within us

When we explode outwards in one way or another, we do not do this as a result of a provocation from outside, but because a wound within us breaks. Imagine that we fall, that we injure ourselves, and that we do not clean and repair this wound. What then?

It can first and foremost become infected, and then much more work will be required to fix it. Or someone can walk past us and rub us without it being meant to. It will then hurt and we react negatively to the person who has touched us, despite the fact that the problem is not this person, but that we have not taken care of the wound when we should have done it.

The heart must accept a situation that makes it uncomfortable and most of the healing process revolves around understanding what solutions allow it to get over what is causing it to suffer. Stopping and reflecting on the situation we want to leave behind requires great effort and sacrifice on our part. By not dedicating ourselves to this, it may seem like a situation is over, but in reality it will hold on and not let us move forward.

Nobody wants to see us like this. Why pay for it with others?

Theoretically, it would have been great for everyone if each of us could think about this: if the people in my life are there, they are because they love me and are happy to see that I am doing well; it is not right to pay them with my bad mood or that I try to fix what upsets me at their expense.

To celebrate The Little Prince’s Birthday, we want to return to a premise he left behind: although the most primary reaction of an animal, including man, is to set up a defensive barrier after being injured, not everyone people who want to harm us or who are guilty of what is going on in our lives.

By refusing to establish new relationships or by setting up walls against those closest to us, we will not be able to heal ourselves, and we will not prevent what disturbed us from happening again. Nor is it useful to be against those who help us, or to hide the problem in order to convince ourselves that it no longer exists. Ask yourself: could this happen to you?

Pamper yourself! You deserve it

If the answer to the previous question is a resounding yes, then you need to prepare yourself to truly pamper yourself. It is only by taking care of yourself, giving yourself a second chance, listening to yourself, appreciating yourself and by loving yourself that you will be able to live a happy life in full harmony with others.

We deserve to learn to say “no” when necessary. We must teach our hearts to make mistakes, reach the bottom and rise, for this is what creates emotional balance: by regulating the good and bad experiences we have had. Try to change the main rule: if we care about others, we will take care of ourselves, but we should never stop taking care of ourselves.

Hurting others because someone hurts us is a bad behavior that does not solve anything. Remember that a heart that does not know what to do with its pain and that harms others because its whole self will only do itself more harm in the end.