When An Ex Starts Living His Life Again

For some people, it is very difficult to accept that an ex has started a new relationship. This can be due to various factors, such as that you are still in love with the person, that you have not “mourned” the relationship properly, or that you do not want the person to go well before it has gone well for yourself.

If you discover in different ways that your former partner has “started to live” his life again, it is not always good news, even if it has been a while since you closed this chapter in life. Why is it so hard for us to be happy for this person? What is happening within us that does not allow us to leave what has happened? Is this a warning sign that deep down says we did not really want to end the relationship or that we are still in love?

Going through a grieving process is important

It may take us weeks, months or even years, but we all need to go through this process. It has the same name as when a relative dies, and this means that we must accept that that person will no longer be by our side. It does not matter who ended the relationship.

This period helps us to adapt to the new reality, to understand that life is different now, and that everything that happened has a purpose and an explanation. No pain lasts forever and we can move forward even though the person no longer belongs to our future. This one only stayed “halfway” and is now a part of the past.

By grieving, we will return to what we enjoy doing. We will focus on our feelings and of course learn from the mistakes we have made. We will continue to be able to experience occasions when we are sad, but our wounds will heal over time.

If I have already mourned, why do I have problems with my emotions?

Nobody says it’s easy to pass this test. We probably think that we have come across an ex and that we no longer care. But a word, a memory, a photograph, a meeting or something else makes the memories return. Hiding so deep in your emotions and pulling out the memories again can make even the strongest person feel weak.

When we discover that an ex has started a new relationship, our feelings will be activated again and we do not know why. “If I’ve already forgotten the person… ..why is this bothering me?” “The person moved on so fast” “How can it be that the person has started living his life again before me?” “Now there is no chance of getting the person back” These are some of the most common questions and statements we ask and make when we are faced with these situations.

By meeting a new partner, we believe that everything else belongs to the past, but it is not that simple. There are many who have tried to forget their ex with a new relationship. There are those who think that they can not live alone or that they need someone else to be happy.

Of course, we also have a group of people who find their “soulmate” after a breakup because while mourning they try to learn from their mistakes and understand what it was they were looking for in a relationship.

Just because your ex is now taken does not mean that the new partner is better than you, that the person has forgotten you so quickly, that you were a funny distraction, or that he never cared about you. It was just the way he started living again.

Seeing an ex in a relationship is good news

No matter how difficult it is to accept it, it is good news that your ex now has a new relationship. You may not see it this way and you continue to criticize yourself for everything you did wrong. Maybe you do not understand how the person managed to “replace” you so quickly. Or this news showed you that you had not completely forgotten the person.

If you have not yet managed to find a person who fits your standard, do not lose hope! Do not think that you are worse than anyone else, and do not compare yourself with what happens to your ex. Take advantage of this time to get to know yourself better. You need to heal the wounds of the past, understand what is happening within you and focus on the future.

If, on the other hand, you are in a relationship and it still bothers you that your ex has a relationship, then maybe this is not because you are still in love with the person, but because you have something called a “narcissistic wound”.

What does this mean? A blow to our self-love that forces us to see that there is another person occupying a place that used to be ours. Jealous? Jealousy? A little bit of everything! Try to think clearly and not put your emotions ahead of your thoughts. We all have a right to be happy and share our time with someone special!