Why We Fall In Love With The Impossible

Maybe it’s because we read or see many stories about love or because we really like to suffer. However, there are not too many logical explanations for us falling in love with the impossible.

What we can not get – whether it’s a friend’s boyfriend, a movie star or a person who is not for us – is usually what attracts us the most. Of course, the heart often has reasons that logic does not understand, as the popular saying goes. But if the impossible is something frequent in your life then maybe this article can help you.

Have you spent more than one occasion “eyeing” someone you could not get for various reasons? Have you ever looked at a person who is married or engaged? Do you love forbidden situations?

Of course, we all have the right to do what we want in life, but the problem lies in how much we suffer from our decisions, habits or choices. In the case of falling in love with the impossible, the reasons can be:

It happens in many different areas. We always want what is missing, what is unattainable or what is unique. This applies when we shop, when we look for a job… or when we like someone! In the case of falling in love with a married man, for example, you might think he is “taken” because he really is worth it. If you have noticed him and there are more people who value him positively, your attraction will increase.

Since we usually have very monotonous and routine lives, we are looking for ways to change our everyday lives. Therefore, we choose to go on holiday to exotic destinations, eat at restaurants that offer international cuisine and look for a difficult person to win.

We can no longer cope with the routine, and one way to break free is to break the rules in some way.

It can be love, but it also applies to other purposes. There are many people who always set next to impossible goals. By doing so, they can assure themselves that they are not entirely to blame for the possible failure.

Of course, this is an explanation that they have nothing to do with. Failure to achieve the goal set is only the result of the difficulty of the goal itself. But they never say they chose the goal because they expected to fail in advance.

This is another one of the “excuses” for not establishing a serious relationship and instead contenting yourself with spending time with someone who then has to return home. Just like these people subconsciously do not want to indulge and therefore choose someone they know does not match them.

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Many women love to think that they are princesses or protagonists in stories that are conveyed in novels and movies. Of course because the end of the stories is always beautiful… “and they lived happily ever after”. To imagine that the other person is the prince in our saga will idealize him to such an extent that there is a horrible fear that this love may be reality.

Yes of course! You need to show your best side and trust that you can do it. Before doing anything else, think about the reasons or excuses that lead you to the wrong people. Then start using these tips:

This does not mean that you are obligated to fall in love with your best friend or someone who helps you at work. But often you are so focused on unrequited love that you do not give yourself the chance to open up the spectrum and look around.

If you expect the knight in shining armor to come and save you from the evil witch and that this man must fight the dragon in the castle, it’s best you wake up. Not just because dragons do not exist or because you do not live in the Middle Ages, but because idealizing a relationship can prevent you from meeting the love of your life.

To think that “the best I can aim for” is dating someone who is married will lower you, and you do not deserve it. Believing that love in the impossible is the best way to avoid devotion may have to do with a previous relationship that made you suffer a lot. Feeling confident that you are unlucky in love does not help you find “your better half”.

Maybe love is unanswered because the other person does not even know the good things you have to offer. Do not hide your personality! Remember that you must first love yourself to receive love from others.

In one way or another, some people are determined to turn love into torture or utopia, just like perfection. By projecting their feelings on a person they cannot get, they have sabotaged themselves from the start. They are captivated by the chains from feeling a love they can not touch, laugh with or kiss.

*: This article is aimed at women, but we must not forget that this is not a phenomenon that is exclusive to women. The same amount, or even more, men are also determined to end their love before it begins, and therefore we believe that they too can implement these recommendations.